I enjoyed taking my children to school this morning. I told them I would give them a lift instead of making them walk in the rain, before it was even light, and they were so pleased. I don't do it everyday; they appreciate it more that way! Giving them an easier start to the day reminded me of what my top priority is at the moment, and that is to look after them in the best way I can. It took almost an hour out of my working time, but the most important thing was to act on what my feelings were telling me was the most important thing to do in that moment.
Coaching often seems to be about goals and working towards something in the future. It's really good to know what your direction is, but if the focus is always ahead of us, we can miss enjoying the present.
Jamie Smart, an NLP guru, talks a lot about the thinking trap of "I'll be happy when...". We can get caught thinking that "if only I could just get x done..I'll feel better", or "when I've got more time....everything will be ok", but that moment might not come. Life is always throwing more at us.
Jamie also points out that when we say we want to get the next piece of work done, or we want to have the money to buy the next new gadget, what we are really saying is that we want the feeling that brings us. We want the feeling of relief, or peace or excitement - whatever that desired feeling might be.
If we focus on getting the feeling we want, we don't necessarily have to wait to get it. We can become more aware of what we have in the present moment and realise that we have the ability to tune into the things available right now to create feelings of peace, relief, excitement - whatever it is we thought we had to wait for.
Give it a try - enjoy today and all the wealth of feelings it is offering you.
Coaching often seems to be about goals and working towards something in the future. It's really good to know what your direction is, but if the focus is always ahead of us, we can miss enjoying the present.
Jamie Smart, an NLP guru, talks a lot about the thinking trap of "I'll be happy when...". We can get caught thinking that "if only I could just get x done..I'll feel better", or "when I've got more time....everything will be ok", but that moment might not come. Life is always throwing more at us.
Jamie also points out that when we say we want to get the next piece of work done, or we want to have the money to buy the next new gadget, what we are really saying is that we want the feeling that brings us. We want the feeling of relief, or peace or excitement - whatever that desired feeling might be.
If we focus on getting the feeling we want, we don't necessarily have to wait to get it. We can become more aware of what we have in the present moment and realise that we have the ability to tune into the things available right now to create feelings of peace, relief, excitement - whatever it is we thought we had to wait for.
Give it a try - enjoy today and all the wealth of feelings it is offering you.
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